She was contemplating changing her job. She didn’t know what to do. Her department was undergoing restructuring, and the future of her position was not certain. This had been going on for months—months of uncertainty and frustration. A job offer came her way, but it wasn’t necessarily something she wanted to do. She put herself under immense pressure… And then there was that endless internal dialogue…
“Should I take it or not? If I take it, what happens next? And if I don’t take it and they let me go, how quickly can I find another job? How will I manage? How will I pay my rent? And if I take it, I’ll still feel frustrated because it’s not what I want to do… I don’t want to make a decision just for the sake of having something. Maybe there will be a place for me in the new department, and things will work out somehow?!”
All these thoughts accompanied her for a few weeks. She would wake up at night, exhausted from overthinking and overanalysing the situation. She said she had made decisions under pressure so many times before: because of her family, because she needed a visa and steady employment, because “what will people say?”… There was always some “because.”
One day, she decided to go for a walk to clear her head. She met a neighbour and let her dog, “Mała”(the little one) (a 30 kg bundle of energy), off the lead to run around. After five minutes of playing with another dog, Mała came running back to her at full speed, eager to play and snuggle, and ran into her with all its strength. As a result, the woman tipped over spectacularly, doing a flip, and after the fall her leg hurt for a long time.
I asked her what she had been thinking about when Mała ran into her. Or rather, what she had been discussing with the neighbour on the hill. She smiled and said, “I was just telling her how much I don’t want to take this job just for the sake of having one.” I replied, “Thank Mała—she helped you make your decision.”
She was offered the job (the one she had been agonising over—they were already arranging the transfer), but… she declined. She said that day she had finally heard herself and decided to let go. Later, when speaking with her boss, she openly admitted: “I’ve always made decisions under pressure, but this time, I want to choose consciously and in line with how I feel.”
She stayed in her department. The changes were still ongoing, but there was a chance that her position in the company would remain. And if not? She said she would find something better, something more suited to her. She also started recognising her own talents and even began to consider starting her own business.
Support for our decisions can also come from outside. When we are mindful of our inner dialogues and conversations with others, we begin to see the chain of cause and effect. Our pets, children, partners, or friends often unconsciously reveal to us what we already know deep down. They show us the decisions our hearts have already made. Sometimes, all it takes is paying attention to find confirmation of what we feel and know.
Original text (published with the client’s consent)
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