The conversation began with her great-grandfather. He emigrated to America, leaving his wife and children in Poland before the First World War to “make a fortune.” He quickly learned English and had a good career in banking, even saving quite a bit of money. His wife in Poland waited with the children for those “millions,” but he returned empty-handed – the war, layoffs, he was forced to go back to Poland. He came back without money, and his stories about his past career and wealth began to be treated as jokes. Eventually, he stopped talking about it because no one believed him, and his value in the eyes of his family declined – he was considered a lunatic. Instead of being seen as an American banker, he became “the guy with no money,” and his wife resented him for leaving her and then coming back with nothing. Such a shame.

So knowing English in her family was associated with the possibility of quick earnings and career advancement, but also with loss, which no one understood, along with disbelief, low self-worth, helplessness, fear, guilt and shame. When he returned, he was around 27 – the exact same age as my client when she emigrated. At first, she only worked illegally and did not put her money into the bank because she was afraid to entrust her money to this institution; she felt that someone would fool her. She quickly learned German and was able to understand all the contracts, and official documents. Despite this, she always had this distance towards institutions, especially financial ones. In banks, government offices, and insurance companies, she felt lost, unworthy and as if was going to be deceived. She literally said she felt stupid. Her mother also – she worked illegally for years and kept her money “in a sock.”

Now my client had a problem with an insurance pay-out, and it was really irritating her. She even said these institutions “take her power away” making her feel stupid and inadequate. It turned out that her issue with learning English was in this whole story as a form of protection.

We did a mental process with an intention – trust in institutions – so that she could approach them with a sense of ease, lightness, and self-confidence.. We dissolved the negative emotions and released the burden tied to her great-grandfather. We acknowledged the difference between the need to “be taken seriously” (something she needed in every interaction with a government office, bank, insurance, etc.) and the mix of negative emotions she felt: helplessness, fear, low self-worth, as well as her natural instincts to freeze and hide.

The next day, she texted me that the insurance company had called and she’d be receiving the payout from her policy. She’d been “fighting” with them for weeks! It turned out the issue with English wasn’t really about English at all, but rather about feelings of loss, guilt, that the institutions made her feel.

Main theme – Institutions drain my power, and I feel foolish in their processes. Emotions – sense of loss, guilt, helplessness�.

Emotional need – the need to be taken seriously.

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